Advice column
Nadia Cross answers the relationship questions most people are afraid to ask out loud — about conflict, confusion, patterns, and the things that are hard to name. New answers weekly.
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Anonymous submissions welcome. Nadia answers one or two questions publicly each week.
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"My partner says I'm too sensitive. How do I know if they're right?"
Being told you're too sensitive is one of the most effective ways to end a conversation before it starts. Here's how to actually figure out what's true.
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"We have the same fight over and over. Is that fixable?"
Most recurring arguments aren't about what you think they're about. Here's what's really underneath — and when it's a sign of something more serious.
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"My partner refuses to go to therapy. What do I do?"
You can't make someone go to therapy. But there's a lot you can do. An honest answer to one of the most common questions Nadia receives.
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"How do I know if I'm the problem in my relationship?"
The fact that you're asking this question is already meaningful. People who are genuinely the problem rarely do. Here's how to find out what's actually true.